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Protected

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A friend recently sent me a bracelet in the mail – no card, no note. Instead, the gift was accompanied by an explanatory text introducing the the bracelet as one for expectant mothers and informing me that the three stones on a thin cord were rose quartz and hematite. According to the text, rose quartz is meant to provide protection and emotional support for mother and child, while hematite is one of the oldest protective stones and believed to help maintain balance in body, spirit, and soul.

I felt a peace spreading through my body when I held the bracelet in my hands. It’s the type of jewelry that I’d like to wear without taking off, but I’ve decided to remove it at night for the sake of longevity. For many years I wore red string bracelets, believed by cultures around the world to protect the wearer from harm. In the tradition that I know, a loved one clasps the bracelet around the wearer’s left wrist where it should remain until it falls off on its own. I often found mine tangled in my sheets upon waking, and I’d like to prevent my newest protective bracelet from meeting the same fate.

I admit to being somewhat superstitious in certain contexts, having a baby being one of them, as well as fully persuaded by the existence of unexplained spiritual forces in the universe. I hadn’t known that I was holding any negative emotions until I put on the rose quartz and hematite bracelet and felt lighter, safer, more confident. I am not one to shy away from incorporeal practices of the ages.

My partner and I joke about how we found each other in the world – mostly by travelling through enough countries in the same year that we eventually landed in the same place. We are both happy to accept a spiritual explanation for that.

That a friend from halfway around the world sent me just thing that I didn’t know I needed has, to my way of thinking, similar spiritual overtones).

And any force of nature that people have believed in for thousands of years, especially at a time when I draw strength from all of evolutionary history, is a powerful one indeed.

Chiang Mai, Thailand – January 2018
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Slow Down

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People keep telling us to enjoy this time, this holiday season, the two weeks we have off with no plans. “It’ll be different next year,” they say. “And for the next many years,” they say.

We know it will. We’re ready for different, and we’re looking forward to it.

But I am also very focused on what is happening right now because I know this is the end of a time in which our worries are pretty simple and pretty solvable. That’s not to say that there aren’t stressful times, upsetting times, uncertain times – of course there are, because that’s what living means. But now is certainly a time of fewer variables; our family consists of one fewer human now than there will be in a matter of weeks!

So I’m enjoying sleeping in, spending half a day on a puzzle, going for a spontaneous walk in the sunshine, waking without a plan and letting the day proceed as it will. There are things to do, of course, and things I want to get done (nearly all of which relate to baby planning), but rather than rushing into all of them at once, which I am prone to do, I’m trying to do things one at a time. I’m just trying to slow down.

Because this is the time where I can. I can indulge in not having to think too hard or do too much, and I am trying to enjoy this feeling because I know everything is going to change. And as I can be pretty tightly wound and all too efficient for my own good, slowing down is somewhat of a challenge for me.

I’m not one for New Year’s resolutions because I firmly believe that the time to change something is the time when one recognizes there’s a change to be made. Over the course of the last few months, I’ve made a very considerable effort to slow down because I know that’s something that doesn’t come easily to me. I would like my child to be a little more relaxed than I am, and I thought it would be helpful for us both to just take a step back. Approach the to-do list with the confident calm of someone who knows it will get done. Do one thing and then the next thing rather than trying to fit all the things into one moment.

As I’m writing this, the Chanukah candles are burning. Sometimes it’s nice to just sit back at watch.

Weimar, Germany – February 2024
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Feeling Like Myself

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I ran into a friend in town last weekend who asked what I thought was a very insightful question: Are you feeling like yourself?

I’m 25 weeks pregnant and my body is undergoing a series of rapid changes. I’ve become comfortable with the pace of change at this point, but the changes themselves are always very new, and each still takes some getting used to. That being said, I really don’t spend that much time in each individual body phase before another takes over. It’s a journey, as they say.

And it really is very beautiful. I have always loved seeing what the body is capable of, and I confess myself in awe of biology.

It’s obviously not just the body that changes during pregnancy, but also the mind. I’m not talking about “baby brain” here, but rather the way that I’ve come to see myself, which is why my friend’s question rang really loudly. The way I spend my time now is definitely different to how I spent time before: I cycle to and from school much more slowly; I am restricted to easy (and therefore boring) routes at the climbing hall, and being there is more for social reasons than training reasons; yoga has become about opening, stretching, and breathing, and no longer has anything to do with using the breath to go deeper and become stronger; I find myself very comfortable spending evenings quietly at home and have been doing a lot of crocheting. Of course, some of this could be related to the time of year. It’s cold, dark, and generally unpleasant outside, and I was more than happy, as always, to go for a long walk in the forest on a sunny day last weekend. But it all feels a little slower, a little more relaxed, a little more settled.

I’m still feeling like myself in the sense that I am at home in my body. I love what it looks like and feels like, I take a picture once a week, and I am utterly charmed by the movement of my growing baby. But where I’ve had to see myself differently is in the way that my body allows me to experience the world. I have had to modify much of what I love to do because that’s the right choice right now, and my body reminds me of that. Accepting where my body is today allows me to enjoy this stage of life, and that is good for the mind. Feeling good in the mind is what allows me to feel like myself, albeit a somewhat different version.

Different phases of life give us the opportunity to try on different selves and I’ve been letting myself listen to this current one. It turns out there a lot of peacefulness to be had there.

Weimar, Germany – November 2025