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Dance Like No One is Watching

In 2003, Teitur released his first album, Poetry and Aeroplanes. I’ve listened to a lot of music since then, but this album is still the most romantic album I’ve ever heard. (His second album, by the way, did not carry the same tone.) The chorus to “Let’s Go Dancing” contains the following lyrics:

Let’s go dancing
Waltz around the rumor mill
In your faded dress with the daffodils
Let’s go dancing
Let time stand still

I’ve had this song in my head a fair bit recently, probably because Mitch and I have been taking dance lessons for about 8 months. He was in a ballroom dance club in college and taking lessons together was actually Mitch’s idea. We’re most proficient in salsa and cha cha, but we’ve dabbled in waltz, American tango, and bachata (very, very briefly on the latter).

Teitur has been stuck in my head all morning (did you know that’s called an earworm?) because last night was our last class at our studio, Inikori. I really didn’t expect to have such a hard time saying goodbye. We’ve only been at Inikori since March or April and we see our fellow salsa and cha cha learners once a week for an hour and a half. I guess dancing with strangers lends itself to a certain sort of intimacy; it’s hard to remain strangers when you’re immediately forced into partner relationships. A round of hugs and well wishes for our adventure to Malaysia was a clear indication that we had become part of a family, a family that both Mitch and I are reluctant to leave. If/when we move back to Rochester, Inikori will be one of our first destinations.

To ease our sorrows about saying goodbye to the Inikori family last night, we joined a few friends at a local rum bar for a drink. I took a picture of the empty patio behind us as soon as we arrived, and I’m glad I did because it was full by the time we left. Havana Cabana has live music and Latin dancing on the weekends, so Mitch and I are going dancing there tonight.

Rum bar

Saying goodbye to so many people this spring and summer has been quite a challenge. I’ve said goodbye to my students (that was devastating), coworkers, family members, and friends. You’d think I’d be good at it by now. But I hate saying goodbye. Leaving is hard. Life goes on for everyone, no matter who is in the picture and who is not. Sometimes old friends come home for a few days and are shocked by new haunts, new additions to our friend group, new apartments, new restaurants. I’m nervous to go away, but I’m also nervous to come back to totally different realties than the ones I know now. In Hebrew, there’s a word for “goodbye” and another word for “see you later.” There’s less finality there.

Cheers to dance, cheers to music, and cheers to adventure.

Travel Guide: St. Louis, MO

“Meet me in St. Louis, Louis, meet me at the fair . . .”

Reference? Get it? Get it? Yes? No? Look it up.

Teehee.

Last weekend, my friend Lucas and I visited Ally, another friend, in St. Louis, Missouri. Ally has lived in St. Louis since we started college many moons ago, and now that we’ve been out of college for a few years, we decided that it was high time to visit her. Lucas lives in California now and I’m moving to Malaysia in August, so it was a “now or never” kind of trip. Ally was an excellent tour guide for the four days that we were there. She took us to fun places and great restaurants and introduced us to her life in the Midwest. There’s a LOT to do there and I would definitely go back.

I wasn’t entirely responsible with taking pictures when we were away; Lucas took on most of that responsibility. Here’s a little taste, though:

Thursday night Cardinals game
Thursday night Cardinals game
St. Louis Arch
St. Louis Arch
Did you know it's as wide as it is tall?
Did you know it’s as wide as it is tall?
Delicious, refreshing, summery beverages
Delicious, refreshing, summery beverages
The outdoor area of the City Museum, a magical place where people of all ages can run, jump, climb, and exlplore
The outdoor area of the City Museum, a magical place where people of all ages can run, jump, climb, and explore
One last hurrah
One last hurrah

If you’re intrigued, here’s a list of places we went (in the order that we went to them):

  • Cardinals Game
  • Kemper Gallery at Washington University
  • Washington University
  • St. Louis Arch
  • Missouri Botanical Gardens
  • Climb So Ill (this is the climbing gym where Ally belongs – LOVED THIS)
  • City Museum

And for those inclined in the food direction, here’s where we ate and drank (in the order that we tried them):

  • Broadway Oyster Bar
  • Hartford Coffee Company
  • Cafe Osage
  • The Royale
  • Pi Pizzeria
  • Rise Coffee
  • Sassy Jack’s
  • Cafe Mochi
  • HandleBar
  • Oceano Bistro

Phone Call

Yesterday I got a text from my sister asking if I were free to chat. We played phone tag a couple weeks ago and the game faded before we actually connected. I called my sister immediately after receiving her message and she picked up the phone, laughing. “You didn’t need to call right away,” she said.

Actually, I did. I love my sister to death, but she doesn’t know that because her communication with our family has been so erratic since she started college, we have an unspoken policy of dropping everything to talk to her when she decides it’s a good time. My mother, who normally goes to bed by 11:30, has been on the phone with my sister well past midnight if that’s when my sister calls. My father, who normally rushes around from meeting to meeting, will postpone everything related to work to call her back. So even though I’d just walked into the house and was halfway upstairs to say hi to my roommate who was working from home, I paused my hello, went back down the stairs, and called my sister.

We had a long, lovely chat and I was glad that we did. It was good to catch up with her, and to learn that she’ll be home for a week at the beginning of June. She’s preparing to spend a year in Spain and I’m preparing to spend two in Malaysia, so we commiserated about the difficulties of getting paperwork in order and applying for visas. Now that she’s done with college, we also talked about her studying for the GREs, summer research with a professor, and her first date with someone outside her peer group. Life really does start to happen in a totally different way after college, and it was refreshing to talk about that with my sister. I do enjoy living vicariously through her tales of concerts, parties, and get-togethers (she is a much cooler, bolder, more exciting person that I ever was) but interacting with her as an adult is a nice change. We’re both getting ready for adventures abroad and I’m glad to share that experience with her.

As they say, “I smile because you’re my sister and I laugh because there’s nothing you can do about it.”